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Parental conflict or domestic abuse

Parental conflict and domestic abuse are two separate things, but it can sometimes be difficult to work out if your relationship is abusive or just in a bad place.

There are things you can do that will help you feel stronger and ready to deal with disagreements and arguments - see our Top tips to help you stay calm during disagreements or arguments page.

For a free private online chat room where you can talk to a listener about your relationship, go to Click relationships: Listening room.

As a general guide, if your relationship with your partner, ex-partner or a member of your family is abusive:

  • they will want to hold all the power and control
  • you might be fearful of them
  • their abuse will have happened more than once, or you will notice patterns 

Helpful websites 


Harbour Support is a specialist domestic abuse service that helps people living in County Durham.

Victim Support

Victim Support is a national website with information about categories of domestic abuse.

Galop (LGBT+)

Galop is an anti-violence charity, making life safe, just and fair for LGBT+ people. 


NSPCC: domestic abuse tells you how you can support for you and your child if you are experiencing domestic abuse.